So my boyfriend and I used to have sex all the time, but I then went on an antibiotic which decreased the effectiveness of my birth control pill so we took a 3 week break from sex so I wouldn’t get preganant.
Once we started having sex again he ejaculates VERY early. We used to last about 20 or 25 minutes. Now it’s down to like 2 or 3 minutes. He and I are both frustrated about it. I’m not mad at him, of course, but I just get sexually frustrated is all.
What is the cause of this? And how can it be cured?
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Premature Ejaculation… What Caused It… How To Cure It?
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Premature ejaculation
Introduction
Many men occasionally ejaculate sooner than they or their partner would like during sexual intercourse. As long as it happens infrequently, it’s probably not cause for concern. However, if you regularly ejaculate sooner than you and your partner wish — usually, before intercourse begins or shortly afterward — you may have a condition known as premature ejaculation.
Premature ejaculation is the most common male sexual dysfunction. In the United States, premature ejaculation affects about one in five men ages 18 to 59. Although the problem is often assumed to be psychological, biology also may play a role.
In some cases, premature ejaculation is a secondary problem related to erectile dysfunction. Men who are anxious about obtaining or maintaining their erection during sexual intercourse may form a pattern of rushing to ejaculate.
Numerous treatments, often used in combination, are available to improve premature ejaculation.
Signs and symptoms
There’s no medical standard for how long it should take a man to ejaculate. The primary sign of premature ejaculation is ejaculation that occurs before both partners wish in the majority of sexual encounters, causing distress for one or both partners. The problem can occur in all sexual situations, including masturbation, or may only occur during sexual encounters with another person.
Doctors often classify premature ejaculation as either primary or secondary:
* Primary premature ejaculation. You have primary premature ejaculation if you’ve experienced the problem for as long as you’ve been sexually active.
* Secondary premature ejaculation. You have secondary premature ejaculation if you developed the condition after having had previous, satisfying sexual relationships without ejaculatory problems.
Causes
Premature ejaculation is considered a psychological problem in some cases. Some doctors believe that early sexual experiences, especially those in which you may have hurried to reach climax in order to avoid being discovered, may establish a lifelong pattern. If you grew up in a family that considered sex dirty or sinful, you may also have developed guilty feelings that increase your tendency to rush through sexual encounters.
However, biological factors also may cause premature ejaculation. Some studies comparing men who experience premature ejaculation with those who don’t have found differences between the two groups in certain hormone levels and in the sensitivity of their genitalia.
Risk factors
Various factors can increase your risk of premature ejaculation, including:
* Impotence. You may be at increased risk of premature ejaculation if you occasionally or consistently experience impotence. Fear of losing your erection may cause you to rush through sexual encounters.
* Health problems. If you have a medical concern that causes you to feel anxious during sex, such as a heart problem, you may have an increased likelihood of hurrying to ejaculate.
* Stress. Emotional or mental strain in any area of your life can play a role in premature ejaculation, often limiting your ability to relax and focus during sexual encounters.
* Certain medications. Rarely, drugs that influence the action of chemical messengers in the brain (psychotropics) may cause premature ejaculation.
When to seek medical advice
Talk with your doctor if you ejaculate sooner than you and your partner wish during most sexual encounters. The problem is common, and although you may feel you should be able to fix it on your own, you may need medical treatment to achieve and sustain a satisfying sex life.
Screening and diagnosis
Doctors diagnose premature ejaculation based on a detailed interview about your sexual history. Your doctor may ask a number of very personal questions and may want to include your partner in the interview. While it may be uncomfortable for both of you to talk frankly about sexual matters, the details you provide will help your doctor determine the cause of your problem and the best course of treatment. A mental health professional may help make the diagnosis.
Be prepared to answer questions about:
* Your religious upbringing
* Your early sexual experiences
* Your sexual relationships, past and present
* The circumstances in your life and in your sexual relationship at the time you began experiencing premature ejaculation
* Any conflicts or concerns within your current relationship
Your doctor will also want to know about your health history, including your use of prescription or recreational drugs, and may perform a general physical exam.
If you’re experiencing premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction, your doctor may order blood tests to check your male hormone levels.
Complications
While premature ejaculation doesn’t increase your risk of serious health problems, it can cause distress in your personal life, including:
* Relationship strains. The most common complication of premature ejaculation is conflict between you and your partner. If premature ejaculation is straining your relationship, ask your doctor about including couple’s therapy in your treatment program.
* Fertility problems. Premature ejaculation can occasionally make fertilization difficult or impossible for couples who are trying to become pregnant. If premature ejaculation isn’t effectively treated, you and your partner may need to consider infertility treatment.
Treatment
Treatment options for premature ejaculation include sexual therapy, medications and psychotherapy. Two or more of these treatment approaches often are used in combination.
Sexual therapy
In some cases, sexual therapy may involve simple steps such as masturbating an hour or two before intercourse so that you’re able to delay ejaculation during sex. Your doctor also may recommend avoiding intercourse for a period of time and focusing on other types of sexual play so that pressure is removed from your sexual encounters.
Your doctor may instruct you and your partner in the use of a method called the squeeze technique. This method works as follows:
* Step 1. Begin sexual activity as usual, including stimulation of the penis, until you feel almost ready to ejaculate.
* Step 2. Have your partner squeeze the end of your penis, at the point where the head (glans) joins the shaft, and maintain the squeeze for several seconds, until the urge to ejaculate passes.
* Step 3. After the squeeze is released, wait for about half a minute, then go back to foreplay. You may notice that squeezing the penis causes it to become less erect, but when sexual stimulation is resumed, it soon regains full erection.
* Step 4. If you again feel you’re about to ejaculate, have your partner repeat the squeeze process.
By repeating this as many times as necessary, you can reach the point of entering your partner without ejaculating. After a few practice sessions, the feeling of knowing how to delay ejaculation may become a habit that no longer requires the squeeze technique.
Medications
Certain antidepressants, including the group called selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), cause a side effect of delayed sexual climax in many people. Although these drugs aren’t approved by the Food and Drug Administration for the treatment of premature ejaculation, studies have shown them to be safe and effective for this condition, and many doctors prescribe them for this purpose.
Your doctor may prescribe one of several selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), including sertraline (Zoloft), paroxetine (Paxil, Paxil CR) or fluoxetine (Prozac, Prozac Weekly, Serafem), to help you delay ejaculation. If the timing of your ejaculation doesn’t improve, your doctor may prescribe the tricyclic antidepressant clomipramine (Anafranil), which also has been shown to benefit men with this disorder.
You may not need to take these medications on a daily basis to prevent premature ejaculation. Taking a low dose several hours before you plan to have sexual intercourse may be sufficient to improve your symptoms. If you are very sexually active or don’t respond to as-needed dosing, your doctor may recommend taking your prescribed medication daily. Talk with your doctor to determine the best medication schedule for your needs.
Topical anesthetic creams containing lidocaine and prilocaine also may help improve premature ejaculation by reducing sensation in your penis. Before use, make certain you have no history of a reaction to lidocaine or prilocaine. You can apply an anesthetic cream a short time before intercourse and wipe it off when your penis has lost enough sensation to help you delay ejaculation. Be sure to thoroughly remove the cream before intercourse so that your partner doesn’t experience genital numbness.
Psychotherapy
In many cases, sexual therapy or medications can resolve premature ejaculation. However, if personal issues — such as conflict between you and your partner or mental health problems — appear to play a significant role in causing premature ejaculation, your doctor may recommend psychotherapy.
This approach, also known as counseling or talk therapy, involves talking about your relationships and experiences with a mental health professional. These talk sessions can help you find effective ways of coping with and solving problems. For many couples affected by premature ejaculation, talking with a therapist together may produce the best results.
Prevention
In some cases, premature ejaculation may be caused by poor communication between partners or a poor understanding of the differences between male and female sexual functioning. Women typically require more prolonged stimulation than men do to reach orgasm, and this difference can cause sexual resentment between partners and add pressure to sexual encounters. For many men, feeling pressure during sexual intercourse increases the risk of premature ejaculation.
Open communication between sexual partners, as well as a willingness to try a variety of approaches to help both partners achieve satisfaction, can help reduce conflict and performance anxiety. If you’re not satisfied with your sexual relationship, talk with your partner about your concerns. Try to approach the topic in a loving way and to avoid blaming your partner for your dissatisfaction.
If you’re not able to resolve sexual problems on your own, talk with your doctor. He or she may recommend seeing a therapist who can help you and your partner achieve a fulfilling sexual relationship.
Coping skills
Many men who experience premature ejaculation feel frustrated and even ashamed. It may help you to know that this problem is common and often very treatable. Talk to your doctor if it’s causing distress for you or your partner.
While you explore treatment options, consider taking the pressure off the sexual side of your relationship. Some doctors recommend avoiding intercourse entirely for a short time and sharing other forms of physical pleasure and affection instead. Connecting in this way can help you re-establish a satisfying physical bond with your partner and lay the foundation for a fulfilling sexual relationship.
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What Can I Do To Help My Fiance To Cure His Premature Ejaculation?
Tuesday, January 19th, 2010My fiance and I make love about 2-3 times a week. We both feel he has a problem with premature ejaculation. I have read that it is only considered that if it happens within the first minute, which is not the case here, but I’m sure it could happen within the first minute if he didn’t pull out. When he gets close and I’m not ready for orgasm, he does pull out but his penis tends to be less hard each time he has to do that. Which then causes the problem of having an orgasm at all. I have told him that he should spend more time on me before actually having intercourse and he does that when time permits but when it doesn’t, what should we do to prevent this terrible thing from happening? We take our sexual relationship very seriously and this question is in no way a joke, it is an honest, serious question.
What Are The Causes Of Premature Ejaculation And The Cure.?
Monday, January 18th, 2010there are many causes. but the best cure is to stroke off just before you get with her…then you’ll last longer
What Are The Causes Of Premature Ejaculation And The Cure.?
Monday, January 18th, 2010there are many causes. but the best cure is to stroke off just before you get with her…then you’ll last longer
What Is The Cure Or Remedy For Premature Ejaculation?
Monday, January 18th, 2010Treatment for Premature ejaculation are –
Depending on severity, premature ejaculation symptoms can be significantly reduced.
SSRI antidepressants have been shown to delay ejaculation in men treated for different psychiatry disorders. SSRIs are considered the most effective treatment currently availble for PE. These include paroxetine, fluoxetine, sertraline and more. The use of these drugs, that require chronic therapy is limited by the neuropsychiatric side effects. New SSRI drugs specifically targeted to treat premature ejaculation(e.g. dapoxetine) can be taken on an as needed basis and have been recently shown positive results in large phase III studies. Nevertheless Dapoxetine is not yet approved by any regulatory authority around the world.
Local anesthetic creams (like lidocaine, prilocaine and combinations) have shown to be very effective in clinical trials and are being used of the treatment of PE. Their use is limited by its own anesthetic effect that reduce sensation on the penis and female vagina.
Most sex therapists prescribe a series of exercises to enable the man to gain ejaculatory control. While the exercises are intended for men who suffer from premature ejaculation, other men can use the exercises to enhance their sex lives. By far the most common exercise is the so-called start-stop technique. While the technique varies, the purpose is to get the male accustomed to maintaining an erection for an extended period of time while gradually increasing sexual tolerance. In doing this exercise, the male obtains an erection through self-stimulation, or masturbation. After achieving an erection, he stops stimulating himself until he begins to lose his erection; at that point, he begins to stimulate himself again. Gradually, over a period of several weeks, he is able to stimulate himself for longer periods of time, eventually gaining ejaculatory control. In order for this technique to be successful, the male should avoid feeling discouraged if he ejaculates rapidly; instead, he should use his sexual responses to learn how to vary the technique in a way that most benefits him. The male can choose to integrate his partner into these exercises.
The male’s partner is usually integrated into the exercises. They can stimulate the partner using the stop-start technique. When the male has achieved some level of ejaculatory control, he can insert his penis into his partner without thrusting. After his penis becomes accustomed to being inside his partner, thrusting can be gradually included, according to the male’s abilities, using the stop-start technique. In less severe cases, the male might overcome his premature ejaculation early on, making exercises with his partner superfluous.
Many alternative therapies are availble for the treatment of PE. Some have shown promising effectiveness but none were properly studied.
The male’s partner plays an essential role in enabling him to overcome premature ejaculation. Without understanding and emotional support, the male is unlikely to obtain the level of relaxation required for sexual satisfaction. Both the male and his partner should communicate their feelings openly and with sensitivity. The male should learn to sexually satisfy his partner, orally or otherwise, while they work with him to overcome his premature ejaculation.
Hypnosis has also proven very effective in the treatment of Premature Ejaculation. It is believed that ejaculation is a subconcious habit and by giving the mind hypnotic suggestions to last longer, the problem can be greatly alleviated if not completely cured. Most men report dramatic improvement after only a few sessions of hypnosis.
What Is The Cure Of Premature Ejaculation?
Thursday, January 14th, 2010the best solution mate is to masturbate a few hours earlier, in time you will settle down and it will go away. Try not to masturbate just before intercourse or that may have the opposite effect. Good luck