I’ve been seeing a guy for a while and were engaged in what I consider minimal foreplay, perhaps 5 minutes. It was the first time we were together sexually. I was on top with my head on his chest and belly, I was in trousers and a T-shirt, he was in boxers and tank top. We kissed a little bit, and then he said, “Let’s go to bed and hold each other.” When I stood up, I saw his semen stain on my trousers. He said, in a voice completely devoid of emotion, “I came on you.” He ignored me the remainder of the evening, no more talking, no more touching, no nothing. He was cold and distant the next day and then told me he wasn’t attracted to me! Needless to say, I was hurt and somewhat stunned. When I called him several days later to discuss what happened, he threatened to hang up on me.
I myself shut down after the premature ejaculation episode, so I was no help to him when he was probably clearly ashamed or embarrassed. I’m wondering if this is worth salvaging.

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