Comments on: Male Depression Symptoms And Treatment …help Me Out Men!?

By: Agnostic Front

Agnostic Front — Sun, 17 Jan 2010 03:16:13 +0000

having waged war on my own depression for years, I’ve been agoraphobic at times, had anxiety attacks, didn’t feel like eating when I knew I should; during the blackest of days, as long as I had a porno, and beer, I never had to leave the house.
St.John’s Wort is touted as the herbal equivalent of prozac, (I haven’t tried it,) and the solution I’ve always used is to simply force myself to start doing things. I’ve mowed the lawns of neighbors, just to be up and moving, I’ve paid the toll of the complete stranger behind me, and I adopted a dog. Many times I go through the daily routines just for the dog.
As to doctors, it’s not a case a machismo, so much as it is a case of not wanting to know if something’s wrong with us. If I don’t know about it, and can treat it with analgesics or alcohol, it doesn’t bother me. I’ll go to a doctor when I’m obviously sick, such as a recent case of shingles.
And there’s the factor of money and time. If you don’t have the money to spend on a doctor’s appointment, you could die in the average ER waiting room while waiting for treatment you can’t afford to start with, which sends you off to the free clinics and public hospitals, where you’re likely to wait as long as it takes a candy striper to notice that you’ve died in your chair.
Maintaining an erection hasn’t been a problem, nor has premature discharge.
The best advice I can give you, (qualified by being friends with a psychotherapist who insists on driving me batty with batteries of questions well outside the realm of friendship,) is to leave him alone; he’ll find his own solution, or he won’t. If he really is suffering from depression, rather than a dark mood because his football team lost, and he won’t seek help, the only thing you can do is wait until intervention is necessary.
Trust me, you’ll know when intervention is necessary.
For the time being, if he’s functional and capable of taking care of himself, you’ll likely cause more harm than good by getting in the way of letting him deal with it his own way. He’ll be able to see you more as a friend than someone interloping on his private life if you wait until you have to intervene rather than continually pestering and nagging at him.
If he looks like he’s pulling it out, encourage him. If he keeps getting darker and darker, and shows the signs of imminent self destruction, intervene. If he buys a pistol, call the cops immediately.
Good Luck.

By: enchidja

enchidja — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 23:23:25 +0000

Lol, every woman always has an agenda. It’s never ‘really’ about the other person. Anyways, have him see a doctor.

By: Fred V

Fred V — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 20:30:20 +0000

this I can tell you ,the thing is that some of us guy don’t won’t others to know about those kind of problems .
about the erection if there is something bothering in your head or when nervous it can prevent your erection
and the premature is not one that’s a mind thing I can control it either, so try talking to him relief his head,THEN CALL ME IN THE MORNING NO MEDICINES NEEDED

By: Paul Hxyz

Paul Hxyz — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 14:07:19 +0000

There is no such thing as “male vs. female” depression as depression is not like PMS and gender specific. Depression, which exists in various forms from Chronic, to Seasonal Onset, can afflict either sex and has basically the exact same symptoms. Where did you get this bit of folk nonsense about “male” depression? Here’s a common type of anxiety (as opposed to depression) that can afflict males: Performance (sexual) Anxiety. Perhaps your friend has that.
He’s not depressed, he’s neurotic!

By: Paul Hxyz

Paul Hxyz — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 07:11:34 +0000

There is more than one kind of “depression” – there is conditional depression, like when one loses a job or a mate, and then there is clinical depression – which requires medical intervention – sometimes drugs, possibly psychotherapy.
I’ve been depressed at times, but it was never “clinical”, only I didn’t realize that until recently. My “depression” was always situational – I was really low on money, or deep in debt, or I had lost a girlfriend – things like that.
As to the premature ejaculation being related I don’t know, but I would guess that this is a different problem based simply on being “overly” sexually excited. There are ways to deal with this – the “lesson” I was taught was “just keep going” or “keep it up”. Truly serious clinical situations will probably require some kind of therapy, but giving medical advice is not only not a good idea but it might even be illegal if (yours truly, etc.) you don’t have an M.D. license. If your friend truly has this problem they should seek assistance. I had to get counseling (for vocational counseling and relationship counseling) once, and although it was the toughest decision I ever had to make, it turned out to be one of the BEST decisions I ever made because my life got a LOT better afterwards.