For a few weeks now i have been suffering from premature ejaculation.Its makeing my relationship with the woman i love very difficult.I am embarrased to say but i would come within 5 seconds of starting.Since i have had this problem we have been fighting,even avoiding eachother.Because we had a very physical relation ship this is such a big problem.I did some research and i figured out what the problem is.Before this me and my fiance had been going through some troubles and had not seen eachother for quite a while.I will say that,even though it is embarrassing, i had been masturbating quite often.When i looked this problem up they said that accesive masturbation is the easiest cause of premature ejactulation to fix.But all of the programs or books cost money that i do not have.People please do not think this is a joke.I would really like some ideas on how to cure this problem.Please help, maybe if i can do this i can get my relation ship back together again.
For A While Now I Have Been Having A Rather Embarrassing Problem.its A Problem That Is Effecting My Love Life?
Written by MWooten on January 31st, 2010
Posted in Premature Ejaculation |
Tags: Been, Effecting, Embarrassing, Have, Having, Problem, Problem.its, Rather, That, While
I have read several books on the art of making love. It isn’t as unusual as you think, though it may be a bit embarrassing. They make creams that you can put on the head of your penis before arousal, one that is reported to be effective is maintain. I have also read several different articles that tell you to put pressure on the base of your penis with your thumb and forefinger before ejaculation to help prolong it. One article I read had the wife play with a yellow ribbon, applying pressure right before the point of ejaculation. Hope this helps some Good Luck.
have “fun” with stuffed animals. that will cure all your problems
Sounds like what a lot of your problem is, is stress. Talk to your fiancee and tell her what’s goin on, get a lot of what is bothering you out in the open. That way you can both tackle the issues at hand. Ask her if she would be willing to help you with this problem, take things slow, try not to get as excited, have her jack you off, and when you feel you’re going to ejacualte, have her hold the base of your penis, cutting off the urethra, until the feeling goes away, then start slowly from there. Will take some time and a lot of patience, but you can improve your stamina if you are both willing to work it out. Hope this helps, and hope you find the answer to your problems!
relationships do not work on sex alone, we all get old, and through life sex drives go up and down, both for men and women.. you cant fix it alone, see a doc, and a therapist..
Go to a doctor. It could be an infection of the prostate or something else.
I don’t know if I have the solution to your question but you are not alone. My boyfriend who is going to be 29 yrs. old next month also has this problem & it affecting our relationship. He also suffers from premature ejaculation and cannot lost long at all. We’ve worked on this for almost 2 years together (without me getting angry just by being patient and understanding) but without much result. Sometimes he doesn’t even get to penetrate & will ejaculate. We’ve tried the stop & start methods but my bigger problem is that once he ejaculates, he can’t get another erection for about 24 hours. You can imagine how frustrated I am. If I really work him (masturbate, oral, etc.) and I do manage to harden him, again he doesn’t last long. I’ve tried to talk to him about this as I can’t continue in a relationship anymore where he does not wish to try to please me as much as I try to please him. You see, once he ejaculates – that’s it – the night’s over. He can not be bothered to actually “finish” me off whether manually or orally. He’s tired and/or is too self-absorbed. Don’t get me wrong he’s a great guy, but has no idea how much his woman craves satisfying sex.
He as well does not have the $ to start buying viagra & we don’t even know if this would solve anything as he doesn’t want to see a doctor about this problem.
I was interested to see that you think that your premature ejaculation is a result of too much masturbation. My bf has never admitted to me that he masturbates, but he’s a male so I just naturally assume he does. I think this might also be part of his problem – and the fact that he doesn’t feel comfortable talking to me about it only adds to his performance anxiety and our sexual problems.
As my boyfriend has gone back to university and we don’t live together, we only see each other on weekends and sometimes only every second weekend. I can’t even begin to express how this lack of sex and then the sex we do have is so unfullfilling and disappointing, what this is doing to me. I have started to re-evaluate our relationship. Not because I don’t love him, I very much do, but if roles were reversed I’d being making sure that I did anything & everything possible to fix this issue.
Maybe you should lay off the masturbation and yes you do need to sit down with your girlfriend and tell her how badly you feel about this. I know I’d feel a whole lot better myself if my bf would first of all admit that we’ve got a problem with his erectile disfunction & premature ejaculation. Once the problem is out in the open, now it’s time for both of you to seek a solution together. Go see a doctor – at least to confirm that there is nothing wrong with your health and/or your testosterone levels.
Is your partner not supposed to be your best friend? Then treat her accordingly and open up to her about this. The longer you dance around this issue, the more frustration will build up and then you get to where I am. Ready to call it quits.
Good luck and maybe I’ll try to take some of my own advice : )