Eight months ago,
as I started my successful battle against premature ejaculation with Matt Wutzke’s Ejaculation Trainer, I was very frustrated.
Slowly but steadily, my sexual life was getting worse and worse, and with it at least a part of my relationship with my wife.
As I wrote in my review of Matt’s ebook, I had by the time read and bought any sort of crappy materials around, without being able to extend my performance by the slightest amount.
The first thing I did – that very night – was reading and implementing the techniques taught in the “first-aid” section of the book. It worked: I was able to last few minutes more and that gave me hope.
However – and this is the core message of this post – I was then very focused on lasting longer the stud way.
My whole sexual world revolved around performing in the sense most male stereotypes convey. I was totally focused on myself and my desire to match the macho model I thought I should be.
Satisfying my partner was just a reflex: what I really wanted was to feel able to satisfy her.
But then, reading Matt’s ebook, I went through a first important change: one of the key principles taught in the book is that
you have to focus on your sensations
Now, focusing on sensations may seem trivial or actually counterproductive but believe me actually isn’t. The point is that by focusing on your body and its sensations, you leave aside all your stereotypes, what you think you should feel, to leave room for what it exists in the now.
This gives you a whole new perspective and you start enjoying your performance rather than being worried about it.
Well, it looks like I’m going to expand this a bit…See you in part 2!!
P.S. – If you can’t wait just grab your copy of The Ejaculation Trainer and experience for yourself.
Or you can read my review for more details on Matt’s approach.
